Friday, June 07, 2019

So here's the thing: college is painted out to be "the best four years of your life" and if that isn't the case then you must be doing something wrong. I know I believed it before I came to college and I'm sure many others do too. Before you come to college, you look at social media to get "a feel for the school" (your new home away from home) but there is a lot you don't see. No one is going to post photos of themselves crying at midnight because they are stressed over an essay or a situation they wish they hadn't gotten themselves into. No one is going to admit that their life is not always picture perfect.

Let me set this up for you: senior year high school me visited only a few schools before deciding that the school I currently attend would be the one I call home for the next 3-4 years. Senior year high school me found that the school felt homey and felt welcoming. Senior year high school me knew nothing more about the school than the location, the mascot, what the campus looked like, and what I could potentially achieve as a Public Relations major at the school. Wow, senior year high school me was truly clueless about what college would look like. Before coming to college, you'll think you know it all but here's a secret: you don't.

When I came to college, I immediately started the motions as I would call them. I arrived on campus early to go through sorority recruitment, circled the campus getting from point A to B, and convinced myself that my classes were great. I am extremely passionate about my major and I thought that meant I had to love my classes.

At first, I was confident in the decision I made coming to the school I chose. Oh boy, was I in for a surprise. About three months into college when the new glow of the campus wore off I started to struggle with my decision to attend my school.  Maybe I wasn't where I was meant to be. But through my hardships, I began to realize it's okay to not always be okay. I started to focus on the blessings I had in my college town: my best friends, the opportunity to graduate early and to live out my biggest dream ever which is to visit Australia (Ivana and I will hopefully be studying abroad there this spring semester of our sophomore year of college!).

If you take away just one thing from this post, I hope it's that life isn't perfect. Everyone experiences ups and downs but after all, college is meant to be fun so enjoy it. You only get to do it once, so make the most of it wherever you decide to go! It will be stressful and hard but you'll also make so many memories. I am forever grateful for my freshman year of college, my amazing roommates, the neighbors across the hall who became some of my best friends, always having someone to go to the dining hall with, staying up to study or to hang out with people because who and for sleep anyway??, and for all the little moments that end up being the best memories.


  1. I wish I had read this kind of post while I was still in school, I think it really would’ve helped me! You’re inspiring so many young women, thanks for keeping it real

  2. I am so thankful to have gone to school before all the social media craziness. College was a mix of tons of stress, tears, joy, drunken shenanigans , friends that felt like family, humiliation and sometimes even betrayal. They were awesome years not despite the hard times but because of them. The sweet is never as sweet without the sour. Forging through tough time with friends bonded our friendships. As for the best years of my life though, I'd like to think the best has yet to come! But whatever stage you're in, just as you wouldn't judge how life should be like based on a movie same with social media- it's all staged :) . Enjoy your own life!

    1. Thank you so much! You put it so well - everyone should enjoy where they're at and know there are good times ahead as well! I definitely feel like social media has both it's upsides and downsides but I try and focus on bettering myself instead of wishing I was someone else which is not always easy but definitely crucial to personal happiness!


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